Saturday, December 3, 2011

A Baby Story - the written version

As everyone knows, Josephine Elizabeth joined our family on November 30, 2011.  What you may not know is how she decided to arrive. Here is a scaled back version of her "Adventure to Birth."

Let me start by reminding you that Tuesday the 29th I had my 38 week check up. My doctor had determined I was 3cm dilated. In my head I started thinking, "It's time...she's coming."  So that night I was a woman on a mission.  I wrote a fairly detailed email to the grandparents about Jack's daycare arrangements, hospital info, etc.  I had Tyson put the infant seat in the car and we brought the hospital bags downstairs. Tyson could tell something was up.

At 1:30am I was up with Jack and felt fine.  Then at 4am I started feeling contractions. I waited a few out and then decided to start timing them.  They were 5 minutes apart, so I got up and started moving around (to see if they would stop).  By 5:00am I knew it was "the real thing."  I woke Tyson up and he jumped in the shower.  Then I started calling people. I called my mom to let her know, then called Nancy.  While I was on the phone with Nancy, my water broke (all over the guest room floor. nice.). Finally, I called Brooke - who had offered to come stay with Jack. By 6:15 - Tyson and I were headed to the hospital.

When we arrived they "checked" me again and much to EVERYONE'S surprise (nurses, doctors, ME!) I was 8cm! Immediately I was asked if I wanted an epidural.  I told them I was feeling pretty good and I would wait to see how things went. I knew I only had 2 centimeters left to go...

Background: I had a bit of an "epiphany" after Jack was born. I was annoyed that I had received an epidural too late. It didn't seem to have worked well and my entire thigh was numb for more than six months afterward. So when I became pregnant with Josie I decided to do my "homework" and understand what a natural birth would entail. I read a lot of books, watched "The Business of Being Born," and talked to as many "natural birthers" as I could. I really felt like I could do it.

Fast forward to Wednesday morning - my contraction were hard and strong...and I felt that everyone who walked in the room asked if I wanted "something for the pain." I looked at Tyson - "Can I do this?" I asked him. He assured me that he knew I could.  And my nurse (who was awesome) - told me that no one else would ask if I wanted pain medications.  That was it...the decision was made.

Labor was intense. I won't go into details, but if you are interested - I won't lie to you when you ask. I'm pretty sure my eyes were close 95% of the time. I had such intense back labor and tried every position possible to ease it. By 9:45 my doctor (ironically, the same one who had checked me Tuesday AND the same one who delivered Jack) announced that I could push. Best.Words.Ever! Again, I will save the details...but there was lots of "coaching", a birthing bar with a sheet to pull on, and I will admit - I was the woman who scares everyone in Labor & Delivery. Yes, I was the screamer. Trust would have been screaming too.

Fifty minutes later, our sweet baby girl arrived. She was "sunny-side-up" (aka: posterior) - which explained the intense back labor.  The relief I felt was unreal. I held Josie for a long time before they took her away to be cleaned up.  As they were cleaning her, they heard her making grunting noises (which is an indicator of respiratory distress) - so they took her to the NICU for observation. Tyson, being the amazing Daddy that he is, went with her.  After an hour, I was taken up to the NICU to nurse her. She was a champ and the doctors determined she was just fine.

We spent Wednesday night in the hospital. Josie was in the nursery most of the night, so I could rest...and was brought in for feedings.  The second time around, the hospital seems like a prison. They have crazy rules and they make you do things that seem silly (with the first baby, you don't know any better). If you can't tell, I got in "trouble" for breaking their rules. I knew I needed out of there! We were discharged at 3:30pm and I was happy to be home where the policy is - my baby, my rules.

So - would I do a natural birth again? Yes, I would. Honestly, I feel great. And I'm proud of myself for "pushing through" (literally) the pain. I was in control 100% - from start to finish.  Granted, I realize this birth plan is not for everyone. Obviously, from start to finish my labor was a little over 5 hours - so it seemed completely do-able in my head. If I was dealing with a long, drawn out labor - my feelings may be different. But - knowing what I know about Jack's birth...and now Josie's birth... I better be in a hurry to get to the hospital from now on. Tyson's an amazing birthing coach...but I don't think I want him to deliver our next child in our family room or along the road somewhere.


  1. First, you deserve a medal. Secondly, you are awesome. And finally, I am so proud of you---you said you were going to do it, and you did. Awesomeness. (Oh, not to mention you are a GREAT mom.) The Bloomington-Michiganders send their love!

  2. Congratulations! Wow Kady, I am impressed!! You are an amazing person & an amazing mother. Thank you for sharing your story & pictures. I cannot wait to meet Josie! ~Julia

  3. I am so proud of you sweetie. You must have your grandma Walker's determination and will power. She must have been looking down at you from above saying " come on Kady, you can do it!". I know grandma Walker is looking over Jack and Josie, with a huge smile on her face. Love you so much and thanks again to you and Tyson for giving us such beautiful, loving, grandchildren. Love. grandma Shirlee

  4. So proud of you, Kady! Thanks for sharing.


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